There we were, lying in bed watching TV like any lazy weekend when my wife tells me she has been feeling a lump in her breast and wants my opinion about it. I was kind of upset she hadn’t already made an appointment with a doctor so I responded a bit angrily. You mean to tell me you had all week to make an appointment with a doctor but you decided to wait and ask me about it on the weekend? I told her feeling a lump in her breast could be something serious and that if she suspected something, she shouldn’t have put it off. My opinion doesn’t matter all that much. What do I know? I may be a massage therapist, but I’m no doctor. Of course, having the breast of intentions, I ended up palpating the area anyway and found what she was talking about. I told her not to mess around and schedule the next available appointment with her OBGYN. Maybe being angry about it wasn’t the best response, but at least it got her to make an appointment.
The mammogram didn’t show anything but since we felt something, the doctor scheduled an ultrasound anyway. During the ultrasound, they found a “suspicious mass.” They determined it is a complex heterogeneous solid mass measuring 1.6 x 1.0 cm, and they want to get her in as soon as possible for a consultation with a specialist and biopsy. According to what I found online, most biopsy results are not cancer but I still can’t help but freak out a bit. Breast cancer does run in her family. Fortunately, even if it is malignant, we are catching it very early on.
As far as I can tell, she is handling the news well. She doesn’t seem all that worried. I think I’ve been more concerned than my wife is. She is sure it will end up being benign and even if it’s not her mother is a breast cancer survivor so she has a lot of confidence she could face cancer and win. Her strong mental attitude is one of the things I love the most about her but I still hope she doesn’t have to go through it. Cancer really sucks.
At this point, all we know is the size and location of the mass. We don’t know if it’s malignant. She is meeting with a surgeon in a couple weeks for a consult and they will decide what type of biopsy to do. In the meanwhile, I plan on being supportive as possible. The best way I can think to do that is by listening and being present. In doing so I hope to be there for her the way she needs me. Situations like this are known to be stressful and a don’t want to add to it. My wife is a tough cookie and hard to crumble. I can’t do anything to fix the situation but I can be supportive, be present, and listen.
Very good supportive reaction
Sure hope everything turns out A-OK. Thankfully, she caught it early and this reminds me that I’m due for my mammogram soon. I tend to put things off as well.
Finding a lump can be scary! I found one about 12 years ago. We did the mammogram and an ultrasound. Thankfully found that it was only a cyst. But, same here. having cancer in my family, I didn’t want to take any chances.
Oh my goodness. I hope she’s okay. Breast cancer is such a terrifying thing for the patient and their loved ones. I love that you’re being supportive and being there for her. She’ll need it!
I am so sorry to heard about your wife! All you can do is be there for her and it sounds like you got that down! I hope everything turns out good!
Such an important topic. I had two lumps biopsied last year. I was more worried than I led on, but thankfully they were nothing to be worried over.
Oh no. I’m so sorry that she is going through this Prayers are being said that everything is fine and there is nothing to worry about.
Prayers that everything will be fine! And being supportive and there for her is the most important part.
Stay supportive, surely this may be hard for both either way of outcome. I so need to pay attention to this part of my health. Ugh. I haven’t .. even though I have had a colonoscopy and have to get one every five years because they found something that had I waited until age 50 ( I was 33 or so) it would have been cancer by then 🙁 So now I am almost 35 and have to get colonoscopies done every five years …. instead of 10. I hope this turns out okay for you guys!
What a scary thing to be going through! I do have a feeling my husband would react the same way as you did if I didn’t schedule an appointment!
I totally understand dealing with something and you are really not sure what you are dealing with. Its good that your wife has someone like you who cares about her and the fact that you are there for her to lean on speaks volumes.
This must be super scary but it’s great that you were able to catch it early on, just in case. It sounds like you guys have been a good team.
Yikes, that’s scary. You don’t want to mess around with lumps! I have had a few scares before but they were always benign.
this is never something you wish happens to anyone! i hope everything turns out for the best! <3
The best thing you can do is be proactive and supportive! Breast cancer runs in my family so I try to be aware of what’s going on with my body to catch anything else. Wish you all the best of luck!
How scary! So sorry to hear she is going through this. Glad it was caught early on though and I’m sure everything will be just great!
How crazy that the mammogram didn’t show anything! I have heard several cases of that happening. I’m sorry you are having to go through this and I am hoping for the best possible outcome for your wife!
That is so scary, but it sounds like you have the right attitude to face the situation. I can’t imagine how hard that must be to hear from a doctor, especially with your partner. :/
I totally get it, my mom is a breast cancer survivor. Her mammogram didn’t show anything either, but she did find a lump. Although your delivery could have been better kudos to you for pushing your wife to get it checked out sooner rather than later.
My BFF went was diagnosed with breast cancer about 3 years ago. I am glad it was caught early. I am happy to say she is now cancer free. Prayer for a good prognosis.